Nancy B

by Dakota Halfpenny on June 7, 2021 Comments Off on Nancy B
Nancy B, Program Participant

Sometimes it seems like things can’t get any worse—and then they do. Last year was hard on everyone, but for people suffering with addictions or experiencing homelessness, things got harder real fast.

United Way has created a vital social safety net for people who are struggling. Your donation does more than just fund a charity. Your support helps provide a wrap-around community system that gives people a path to a better life.

Nancy B, Program Participant

I know what it feels like when you think things can’t get any worse – and then they do.

A little over 16 years ago, I was suffering from addiction and homelessness. I wasn’t someone you could trust and I was not on speaking terms with my family, including my four children.

My troubles started at a young age. When I learned my Dad wasn’t my biological father, it had a huge impact on my self-worth. I began to believe that I wasn’t worth another person’s love. I started to use my body to get attention and did drugs and whatever else I could to feel loved and wanted.

When I was 16, I had a baby. The father wanted nothing to do with us. This added to my feelings of being unwanted. At the time I didn’t have the tools, or know about the resources available, that could have helped me.

One year later I met someone. He seemed perfect, as new love always does. We got married and I was excited to begin my life as a new family.

This turned out to be the worst decision of my life. Years of physical, mental and emotional abuse followed. I spent countless nights at the hospital, making excuses for my injuries. Yet I always believed him when he told me he loved me and that it wouldn’t happen again. He was good at telling me what I wanted to hear and I believed him over and over again. I just wanted to feel loved.

Sure, I packed up my children a few times, threatening to never return. But having little money, and less self-esteem, I always went back. I wanted to believe him when he said things would be different. There were always honeymoon periods that followed that helped convince me he really did love me.

Fast forward to present day. Thinking about those times can be difficult for me now.  I often lie in bed and think about the life my children had growing up. It must have been hard, listening to the fighting, smashing and crying. It must have been scary when the police came.

It breaks my heart that my kids experienced these things.

I celebrated 16 years of being clean this February. I have a healthy, loving relationship with my children. I went back to school and got my degree. Four years ago I married a wonderful man who loves me.

It wasn’t an easy road. But with a lot of help, encouragement and guidance, I’m here to tell you that when people are ready, there is a way.

It’s called the United Way.

When I started my recovery, I didn’t know United Way funded the programs and services that would end up saving my life.

United Way has created a vital social safety net for people who are struggling. Your donation does more than just fund a charity. Your support helps provide a wrap-around community system that gives people a path to a better life.

When I needed help, I got it at Unity Project, a United Way funded agency. I used emergency food cupboards at neighbourhood resource centres. My children were able to go and be kids at the Boys and Girls Club of London and Merrymount Family Support and Crisis Centre.

United Way funds programs at all of these life-changing agencies.

Because of donations like yours, support was there for me when I needed it. Every program and service I used was in some way connected to United Way.

I know that without United Way, I wouldn’t be here today. I also know there are still people out there right now, struggling like I did. And COVID-19 has made everything even more difficult for them.

I give to United Way so that others can have the same chance I did: to have a fair shot at their best life. Please consider a gift. Let’s help someone together.

We often see families coming to the Centre looking for food support, but after we’ve given them food, we always ask ourselves, what’s next? What needs are hiding behind hunger?

Nancy Needham, Executive Director, South London Neighbourhood Resource Centre

The financial and emotional stress of the pandemic have contributed to more intense violence and more women and children needing our help. Lockdowns have caused these same women and children to be further isolated in their homes and less connected to friends, family, and social supports. We have to keep doing everything we can to support them.

Jessie Rodger, Executive Director, Anova, a United Way partner agency

Together, more than ever.

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Lori

by Dakota Halfpenny on October 7, 2020 Comments Off on Lori
Lori Fitzgerald, executive director at Inn Out of the Cold

Lori Fitzgerald, executive director at Inn Out of the Cold, says heartwarming stories keep her team going. For the first time in its 10-year history, the Inn was open all spring and summer, providing shelter and support for more than 50 people daily.

Open, when the world was closed

When COVID-19 closed public spaces vital for local residents experiencing homelessness, United Way funding tripled services to help Inn Out of the Cold meet the growing need

The man was a former guest of Inn Out of the Cold.

He stayed at the St. Thomas shelter for a short time last summer and now he was back with good news.

“I not only have housing, but I have a job,” he said during a recent visit to the organization.

“And thank you.”

Lori Fitzgerald has heard heartwarming stories like his before, in her role as executive director of Inn Out of the Cold.

But in this case, the timing is important.

The man got help because the shelter was open to him during a pandemic – when everything else was closed. Open all spring and summer for the first time in its 10-year history, Inn Out of the Cold gave him refuge at a time he needed it most.

And that was made possible because of support from United Way Elgin Middlesex, which provided funds to help keep the shelter open all year and hire staff needed to run daytime services as well.

“United Way really is part of the backbone of our services,” says Fitzgerald. “They do provide a much longer-term relational kind of approach to funding than many others, so they’re very invested in our overall success of our guests and our program.”

Already a United Way funded agency, the Inn got a boost from the Federal government’s Emergency Community Support Fund, which was administered locally by United Way Elgin Middlesex. The organization used the money to triple staff and services to help community members who were struggling in circumstances triggered by COVID-19.

On average, 15 people stay at the emergency shelter each night and between 20 and 50 people visit the downtown drop-in centre every day, says Fitzgerald. Guests include people experiencing poverty and mental health and addiction issues who used to take a break from outside weather conditions at a library or arena or fast food restaurant.

When those places closed during a province-wide shut down this past spring to prevent COVID-19 spread, people who had nowhere to go during the day were stuck outside.

“It became visible very, very quickly,” says Fitzgerald. “It’s been a challenge, but it’s been great to be able to be able to step in to meet those needs. The only way we’re able to do that is with community support.”

Because Inn Out of The Cold already provided emergency shelter, food and basic needs through fall and winter months, St. Thomas officials asked the organization to operate the new daytime drop in. Funding from United Way helped hire a program manager and extra staff who help provide food and basic needs, and support for housing and work applications – while following physical distancing guidelines.

While many of the 120 volunteers have not been able to work during COVID-19 because of age or health conditions, those who can have more than doubled their pre-pandemic hours.

“Inn Out of the Cold really is supported in every way by our community. Usually if we say on Facebook that we need a pair of men’s pants, eight hours later, we’ve got four pairs of men’s pants. If we need a new cot . . . we have a new cot – or two new cots or three – by the end of that shift,” says Fitzgerald.

“I think COVID has proven to us all as a community that we can pull together and get through a crisis.”

Together, more than ever.

“[The needs] became visible very, very quickly…but it’s been great to be able to be able to step in to meet those needs. I think COVID has proven to us all as a community that we can pull together and get through a crisis.”

Lori Fitzgerald, Executive Director, Inn Out of the Cold

When public places closed during a province-wide shut down this past spring to prevent COVID-19 spread, people who had nowhere to go during the day were stuck outside. Funding from United Way helped Inn Out of the Cold add a daytime drop in centre to help provide food and basic needs, and support for housing and work applications – while following physical distancing guidelines.

There’s an issue
Homelessness affects everything from employment to personal safety, mental health and access to healthy food. It’s difficult to fully participate your community, keep a job or go to school if you don’t have a safe place to sleep.

You can help
United Way supports a housing-first approach that quickly moves people experiencing homelessness in to independent and permanent housing with appropriate supports. We invest in programs that help people obtain and maintain a secure and stable long-term home.

1,052 individuals accessed affordable housing and financial products and services funded by United Way

Here’s how:

  • $52 provides a person experiencing homelessness with a daily visit to a local coffee house for social connections and support
  • $365 helps to provide survival kits with clothing, toiletries and food for 10 youth in the community
  • $1,200 provides 12 sessions of personal counselling for a person struggling with depression, anxiety, trauma or other challenges to their mental health
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Skyler

by Dakota Halfpenny on October 6, 2020 Comments Off on Skyler
Skyler Campbell, program participant

Skyler Campbell, happy to be back at Strathroy’s Next Wave Youth Centre. Campbell says the other clients, volunteers and staff have become an important part of his support network.

Somebody in their corner again

Young people drop in for a can of soup and get the support they need at Strathroy’s Next Wave Youth Centre

When the lights finally came back on at Strathroy’s Next Wave Youth Centre this summer, it felt like “the world opening up again,” says Skyler Campbell.

The COVID-19 shutdown was tough on Campbell, 20, who receives employment training and other supports at the agency and works in its jam-making facility.

“Being able to be back, it’s relieving because you’ve been unemployed, or you’ve been looking for work since all this stuff has been going down,” he said. “Next Wave brought us back together again.”

Campbell is among 150 young people who access services at Next Wave every year and says the other clients, volunteers and staff have become an important part of his support network. Better yet, they’re his friends.

“It’s like our own little community. Everyone is so nice here and very helpful,” he says. “These guys have been helping me figure things out.”

Meant as a safe space for youth in Middlesex County, Next Wave offers basic needs, housing supports and counselling. It also provides employment experience and training at its social enterprise – Mushed by YOU jam, jellies and spreads.

But for those who access services every year, the support often starts with their basic needs. Many come in because they have heard Next Wave – which is a part of Youth Opportunities Unlimited (YOU) – provides emergency food and toiletries. That’s when the conversations begin that could lead to other supports, such as mental health services.

“Being able to be a one-stop place for youth to get those supports makes all the difference,” says Nick Martin, manager of food services and enterprise at YOU.

“Someone coming in for a can of soup and some pasta, that can lead to them getting some employment support . . . addiction support, learning how to budget, finishing their education all in one space. It (gets them) to where they are able to support themselves.”

Funding from United Way Elgin Middlesex helps Next Wave provide food and basic needs to young people age 12-29 from Middlesex County, including Strathroy, Parkhill, Ailsa Craig and Chippewas of the Thames and other surrounding First Nations.

“Without the support of the United Way, Next Wave wouldn’t exist,” says Martin. “United Way’s support was very vital for our operations (before) and after COVID.”

Since the pandemic, Next Wave staff has seen a spike in need for items such as grocery gift cards that enable young people to buy produce and other fresh food that can be hard to find at emergency cupboards. In Middlesex County, where social services are few and far between to begin with, COVID-19 shutdowns have made finding other sources of affordable food almost impossible for youth in the area who don’t have transportation to get to the nearest city centre, he says.

“We see more people need that support and the youth that we were seeing before are just needing so much more,” he says.

Not that they ever stopped. Like other organizations supported by United Way, Next Wave pivoted services online when COVID-19 forced it to close its doors. During those months, staff did their best to stay connected, even continuing to operate the basic needs shelf for clients who called in a food crisis. But it wasn’t the same.

“It was so impersonal,” says employee Kaitlyn Harvey, recalling how she would leave a bag of food outside the building, to minimize contact. “Most of the time when someone comes in for basic needs, they need to talk about something – they need some emotional support.”

Reopening made a “huge difference,” says Harvey. “For our youth, it definitely helps them feel connected to their community and have somebody in their corner. They can come here and have somebody advocate for them when it’s really difficult to advocate for themselves.”

“I know a lot of our youth are really happy to be back.”

Together, more than ever.

“Being able to be back, it’s relieving because you’ve been unemployed, or you’ve been looking for work since all this stuff has been going down. Next Wave brought us back together again.”

Skyler Campbell, program participant

Next Wave is a one-stop place where youth learn to support themselves. Someone coming in for a can of soup and some pasta can lead to employment support, addiction support, learning how to budget and finishing their education all in one space.

There’s an issue
Today’s young adults are deeply affected by the changing nature of work and many are struggling to connect with their communities, finish high school and find meaningful jobs.

You can help
United Way targets the most at-risk youth in our community, so that every young person has a real opportunity to succeed.

11,956 elementary/middle/high school youth participated in United Way funded school and/or community-based out-of-school time programs

Here’s how:

  • $52 provides 5 individuals with access to a single-session of counselling at a walk-in clinic for effective treatment that is goal-oriented, solution focused and accessible
  • $365 helps to provide survival kits with clothing, toiletries and food for 10 youth in the community
  • $1,200 matches a young person with a mentor for 3-4 hours a week of guidance, fun and growth
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Nancy N

by Dakota Halfpenny on October 6, 2020 Comments Off on Nancy N
Nancy Needham, executive director of the South London Neighbourhood Resource Centre

Nancy Needham, executive director of the South London Neighbourhood Resource Centre, at the Neighbhourhood Residents Association of Westminster Park’s Breakfast Bags program, a companion program to the Emergency Food Cupboard.

‘It gives you wings’

When a busy neighbourhood centre had to close as part of London’s COVID-19 response strategy, many White Oaks residents were cut off from food and other basic needs. United Way funding helped bring the Emergency Food Cupboard back when the community needed it more than ever.

Times were already tough.

Before COVID-19, the emergency food cupboard at South London Neighbourhood Resource Centre served about 100 people a month.

Now, it’s 1,000.

“So many individuals are coming to us for the first time. People who were already facing barriers — poverty, hunger, mental illness, and social isolation — need even more help now,” says Nancy Needham, executive director of the South London Neighbourhood Resource Centre (SLNRC).

“You’ve heard over the years that many people are one pay cheque away from losing their home. COVID has made that real.”

Among the new visitors staff have welcomed parents with no money for groceries as they waited for government support and couples who both lost their jobs due to the pandemic.

Many seemed almost “panicked,” by the time they arrived at the food cupboard, but still reluctant to ask for help.

They’d donated to food banks in the past but said they had never imagined they’d need to use one.

“If United Way didn’t fund a neighborhood resource centre, those new faces . . .  they would be the ones that I would be most concerned about,” says Needham. “Food and basic needs are really a major problem in London.”

Just how vital the emergency food cupboard is to the South London community became painfully clear early in the pandemic when the City closed many of its buildings, including the SLNRC on Jalna Boulevard, and the organization had to move the food cupboard 14-kilometres away to the Northwest London Resource Centre in order to keep it open.

“It was really quite devastating,” Needham said. “People were saying things like “I don’t know what I’m going to do with my family.”

Then a grant from the Local Love in a Global Crisis community response fund organized by United Way Elgin Middlesex helped SLNRC move the service back to the neighbourhood. Since May 5, the emergency food cupboard has been operating out of St. Justin’s Parish on Jalna Blvd.

Staff instantly noticed the spike in demand. One four-day week after a long weekend, the cupboard served 198 people. With 10 times the number of people coming in, food donations from neighbourhood faith groups were no longer enough. Again, the United Way stepped in, facilitating a partnership with the London Food Bank, which now regularly supplies the cupboard with food.

“It makes me so happy to know that there are resources like this available,” one mom said during a recent visit. “Not just for me, for everybody. There’s a lot of people who struggle.”

She feels grateful to donors for the way her children’s faces light up when she brings home food from the emergency cupboard.

“As a parent, seeing that happiness in your kids. . .It gives you wings,” adds the mom, who also volunteers at SLNRC to “give back,” to the community.

The SLNRC, a United Way partner agency, has long been a hub of the White Oaks community. It’s fueled by volunteers — many of them former clients — and aside from the emergency food cupboard, it hosts a settlement agency, youth groups, community meals and classes on language, cooking, and parenting.

When its building closed temporarily in March, SLNRC moved services online to say connected with clients. But once word spread on social media, the organization reached even more community members who started accessing services for the first time.

“It is a world where so many more people clearly are living on the brink of poverty,” Needham says. “COVID has really brought that to light.”

And that’s a good thing, because it means people who have been struggling in silence now have a connection to emergency food cupboard to help them through hard times, says Needham.

“No matter what your age or your needs . . .If the families don’t have food, we’re in trouble.”

Together, more than ever.

“So many individuals are coming to us for the first time. People who were already facing barriers — poverty, hunger, mental illness, and social isolation — need even more help now.”

Nancy Needham, executive director of the South London Neighbourhood Resource Centre

SLNRC had to close as part of London’s COVID-19 response strategy, leaving many White Oaks residents cut off from food and other basic needs. United Way funding helped bring the Emergency Food Cupboard back when the community needed it more than ever. Today, almost 1,000 people visit every month.

There’s an issue
For too many in our community, poverty is a daily struggle. It forces people and families to make impossible choices like whether to pay the rent or put food on the table. It leaves kids and seniors feeling isolated and robs them of future opportunities. Poverty touches every aspect of a person’s life, making it difficult to get a fair shot at a good life.

You can help
When kids and families succeed, our whole community prospers. United Way helps meet basic needs like food, transportation access, housing and recreation. We also lead long-term strategies to ensure that fewer people are vulnerable in the first place.

22,624 individuals participated in United Way funded physical activity and/or healthy food access/nutrition programs that build good habits and increase belonging

Here’s how:

  • $52 helps 5 families to secure a gardening plot, compost, water, seeds, seedlings and instructional resources to grow food for one season
  • $365 ensures that a child from a low-income family gets a good start to the day by receiving a healthy breakfast everyday during March break and summer holidays
  • $1,200 provides a traditional indigenous-led parenting class which can bring about awareness to assist in positive family outcomes for urban indigenous families
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